Materialists and the Divine Feminine’s yearning for Divine Masculine energy

I'm looking for a man in finance

Trust fund, 6'5", blue eyes

Finance, trust fund, 6'5"

Many of us will remember this 2024 Megan Boni ditty which, by her account, landed her a record deal, a talent agent, a ticket to becoming her "own man in finance", along with a hefty side of indignant spewing from the manosphere for promoting objectification and transactional relationships (ha :).

One could say that it was a matter of time before someone put words to one of the more confusing aspects of modern dating. In this era of formalized open relationships and the commodification of sexual activity, many single women experience the embarrassing dichotomy of deeply wanting to be taken care of and provided for, while having to engage emotionally like men do. Materialists, the 2025 movie by Celine Song, is a decidedly modern take on the classic "looking for love" story with a post-modern feminism twist.

In the Materialists universe, both men and women monetize their attraction ability as best as they can, while seemingly keeping their own romantic desires in check until they are either safe to reveal, or necessary to relinquish. There are checklists, height, weight and income requirements, with multiple bonus points for a full head of hair for men, and the "perfect" age bracket for women (25-28 years-old btw). As a successful matchmaker at Adore, an up-and-coming dating agency in NYC, 35-year-old Lucy (Dakota Johnson) navigates her clients’ disappointments and victories with patience and tact, until a crisis of faith forces her to examine her own values, and the role she plays in a system rigged against women.

Pegged by some as an "anti-romcom" and "broke man propaganda" (I agree as who would choose aspiring actor Chris Evans over finance bro Pedro Pascal is a mystery but I digress :), Materialists to me is a solid example of how the collective Divine Feminine searches for balanced Divine Masculine energy that protects and provides. This quest takes on many forms: some sisters go all in with financial requirements, demanding babysitting, nails, hair and transportation allowances before even agreeing to a first date, whereas others choose a more subtle approach, quietly observing whether a man will offer help with domestic tasks or support in a small (or big) crisis without being asked. It’s not about spending money as much being willing to expand resources to support the present opportunity for connection as well as a potential partnership.

No connection is a perfect equation, of course, as the line dividing meeting one’s emotional needs and respecting another’s relationship style can be tricky to draw. If anything, Materialists shows us that looking for a life partner is much more than an exercise in checks and balances, and that deeper desires must be acknowledged without shame or apology, even when they are deemed less socially acceptable.

Note: The terms "woman" and "sisters" are used here to designate Divine Feminine energy with the understanding that they could be replaced by others if appropriate.